No this is not a blog about the effects or nutritional facts of sugar, this is something more important! If there is one lesson I have learned through out cancer treatment, it is you can never get enough hugs or love from those who care for you. Love makes the world go round and hugs seal the deal!
That rule should resonate to all family and friends you know during this awful, and hopefully very temporary, period. One of my favourite things to say is ‘Gimme Some Sugar’ to my children. I’ll go for a limb first or the neck or the tummy and tickle tickle tickle until they cannot stand it anymore! Hugs and kisses follow and it becomes this smorgussborg of LOVE. And as expected, the results always go my way: smiles from ear to ear and moods have changed in a more positive light.
There’s one person in particular who needs more sugar these days than I do and that’s my eldest daughter, Shepherd. Although we have gone through the roughest of patches, I still need to work hard on making sure she knows the road has been cleared and mommy can drive onwards.
Shepherd is 8 years old now and trying to find her ground of who and how strong she is. It was hard for me to step back and recognise this because I have spent the last nine months being strong for everyone else and holding the walls up. Remember, when Mommy gets sick mayhem usually breaks out! And who does Mommy’s job better than mommy? So now, I think she has involuntarily stepped towards my shoes and assumed some of the easiest of maternal attributes like calming, soothing, taking care of Carsen, 7 years, and Ewan who is a precocious and very large 3 year old boy. Don’t get me wrong, Carsen is a handful and keeps everyone on their toes so it really is about Ewan now.
Apart from being impressionable, she’s very coy and perceptive. There’s no doubt in my mind she sees everything and tries to fix it too. I am going to work harder today to keep her relaxed, take the reigns now, and give her as much sugar as she needs.
So, today’s blog is dedicated to my lovely little girl, Shepherd. This sugar is a natural kind but I am sure ice cream and cookies will be thrown in somewhere!
And what better to throw in some corny little Hug & Kisses sayings to enjoy over the weekend:
– A hug is like a boomerang – you get it back right away. ~Bil Keane, “Family Circus”
– I have a present for you, but I need to borrow your arms for wrapping paper. ~Author Unknown
– I love hugging. I wish I was an octopus, so I could hug ten people at a time. ~Drew Barrymore
and lastly, from one of my favourite poets/authors
I will not play at tug o’ war
I’d rather play at hug o’ war,
Where everyone hugs
Instead of tugs….